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3 Easy Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

Contributed by Heather England, Ph.D, Love Filled Life


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In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it's easy for couples to get swept up in the busyness and forget to nurture their relationship. We often think that if things are going smoothly, there's no need to intentionally invest in our relationship.


But here's the truth: even the strongest relationships need constant care and attention to thrive. So, whether you've been together for a few months or 25 years, it's important to keep the love alive.


You might be thinking, "But my relationship is great! Why do I need to do this?" Well, here's the thing: people change and relationships evolve. What worked for you and your partner in the past might not necessarily work in the future. By making a conscious effort to strengthen your love, you're laying the foundation for a stronger connection as you grow old together.

Before you start panicking and thinking that you need to plan elaborate date nights or spend a fortune on gifts, let me stop you right there. Strengthening your relationship doesn't always require grand gestures or extravagant displays of affection. In fact, sometimes it's the simplest acts of love that have the most profound impact on your partner.


Here are three easy ways to keep your love alive:


  • One of the easiest things you can do is write your partner a short love note. In a world where we're constantly bombarded with emails, texts, and notifications, taking the time to write a handwritten note might seem outdated. But there's something undeniably romantic about putting pen to paper and expressing your love in your own words. It doesn't have to be Shakespearean poetry – a simple "I love you" or "Thinking of you" will suffice. Trust me, the mere act of knowing that your partner thought of you and took the time to let you know can brighten even the gloomiest of days. In my relationship, my husband and I have a tradition of writing each other love notes whenever one of us goes away on a trip. We'll slip them into each other's suitcases or tuck them under the pillow as a sweet surprise to find later. It's a small gesture, but it serves as a tangible reminder of our love and connection, even when we're miles apart.


  • Another simple yet powerful way to strengthen your relationship is by setting aside just five minutes each day to connect with your partner. In today's fast-paced world, it's all too easy to let quality time slip through the cracks as we juggle work, family, and other obligations. But by making a conscious effort to carve out a few moments of uninterrupted conversation each day, you're showing your partner that they are a priority in your life. During these five minutes, put away your phones, turn off the TV, and just be present with each other. Share how your day went, discuss any concerns or challenges you're facing, or simply enjoy each other's company.


  • A final idea is to inject excitement into your relationship by doing something different. Research has shown that trying new things together releases dopamine – the "feel-good" hormone – which can reignite passion and attraction between partners. So why not shake things up and break out of your routine? Whether it's trying out a new restaurant or local hot spot, taking a class, or embarking on a spontaneous road trip, the key is to step out of your comfort zone and experience something different together. Not only will it add a sense of adventure to your relationship, but it will also allow you to create lasting memories together.


In the end, cultivating love in your relationship is all about the little things. It's about simple acts of kindness, moments of connection, and shared experiences that bring you closer together. So don't wait for a special occasion to show your partner how much they mean to you. Instead, intentionally nurture your relationship every day, and watch as your love continues to grow and flourish.


If you’d like to learn about many more ways to strengthen your relationship, visit HERE for a list of 30 ideas.


Heather England, Ph.D., MBA, LCP, LCPC, CST. is a clinical psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and executive and life coach who teaches about the power of strong relationships and the importance of intentionally creating the life you truly want. She is the founder of Love Filled Life, and the host of the Great Sex Podcast. She lives in Overland Park with her husband, college-aged daughter and energetic dog. She spends as much time as possible with her blended family of six adult children and her incredible grandkids. She likes to enjoy the sunshine, explore the Kansas City metro, and hang out with friends.

 

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